posted on July 31, 2016 16:36
1 Corinthians 13.7-8a – bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails…
It seems that along the way, many have lost heart in being married. We all can; it can happen to the best of us. We might be able to manage our disappointment, and we do things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails… our best to fight off resignation, but it can work its way in, and destroy something beautiful; something very rare and valuable. What began as an exciting adventure becomes an exercise in duty. And then we start developing skills at the wrong things: becoming experts at withdrawal and criticism instead of vulnerability and forgiveness.
One thing is certain: it doesn't happen by accident. We have to undergo certain changes for that to take place. We have to lower our expectations for ourselves and for one another. We end up letting go of what we originally wanted; of what we began to dream. And ultimately, we have to settle for less.
Because marriage is hard, sometimes painfully hard, your first great battle is to not lose heart. A battle that too many Christians in today's church are losing. It involves staying the course, persevering during trials, and experiencing an endurance that strangely becomes our friend. For it is in that same endurance that we gain a character that can love.
This is a love that can hope; a God-given hope that fills us. It is a Spirit-empowered Hope that transforms our human love and our mortal marriage promises into something bigger and greater than ourselves. But not the one that you or your beloved dreamed of. It becomes instead the love and marriage that God dreamed of—for the both of you; from the beginning.
And isn't that always the best one?